Before arriving, you probably imagined what this project would be like - the people, the place, your role. Now that you’re here, things feel more real: you see how it actually works and how you feel. This reflection helps you pause and recheck with yourself - now that you’re here, what do you want to give to this project, and what do you hope to receive from it? It’s a way to align your expectations with the reality in front of you and start your experience with clarity and intention.
What you will need:
- A4 paper or printed handout (with two circles or baskets labelled Give and Receive if you like)
- Pens or markers
- Optional: coloured paper for group version
Instructions:
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Take a sheet of paper and divide it into two parts - it can be a line down the middle, two circles, or two baskets. Label one side Give and the other Receive.
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Reflect on “Give.”
Think about what you want to contribute to this experience - your energy, ideas, skills, or attitudes. What do you bring that could make a difference for others or for the project? -
Reflect on “Receive.”
Now consider what you hope to gain or experience. What do you want to learn, understand, or feel during your volunteering? -
Look for balance.
Compare both sides and reflect:-
Do they feel connected and balanced?
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Is there something you’d like to adjust - maybe giving yourself more space to learn, or offering more of your strengths to others?
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What has changed in what I want to give or receive since I arrived?
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What feels easy to offer? What feels harder?
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Share with your buddy (Optional).
If reflecting with others, share one thing that you want to give and one thing you hope to receive. Listen without comment - it’s about awareness, not comparison.
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Guidance for mentors/facilitators:
- Use this activity on the first or second day after arrival, when volunteers are settling in.
- Keep the tone open and curious - this is not about goal-setting, but about awareness and connection. Encourage focus on attitudes and intentions, not just tasks or results.
- Deepen the reflection with the following prompts:
- How does what you give contribute to the common experience?
- What can you receive from others that would help you understand their perspective?
- How can giving and receiving strengthen trust and connection?
- Revisit the exercise at the end of the project, asking: “What did I actually feel that I gave and received?” to close the reflection loop.